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Unwanted Calls

By: heatherMB
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Date: Jan 23, 2013
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As some of you know, my ex-husband has just lost his business, tried to commit suicide, is bankrupt, lost his apartment and is in a rehab facility for a month (I think he only has a few more days left there but that is just a guess). I have decided that the best thing I can do is just leave him alone. He is a mean, cranky person and I'm not going to put up with him. His daughter (my daughter too) is a different story. I with my daughter saved his life twice when finding himn unconscious.

He left vehicles behind in three different places. His car (owing payments) at a repair shop. A business van at his apt complex, and 2 more business vans at the office space he had rented for his business. So far 3 parties have my name and phone number. The apartment complex, and they are very nice and are leaving me alone, GMCC who I have filed a complaint with the FTC, and now some kind of auto recovery company (they called a couple minutes ago).

My ex, just abandoned all of his problems and owes all sorts of people money in his business and personal life. I let him use my address for his Medicaid application, but that is it. I refuse to get involved with his problems, but since he has no phone number or address, people are going to keep calling me. I hope he goes to a halfway house soon because then I can just give his info over to others. The phone calls make me tense and angry, because I feel like his problems are now my problems. He still apparently blames me for the failure of the business even going back to the point that we were still married and I hired someone to take my place so I could get a job outside the home. That was about 20 years ago!!

When we found him almost dead and got him to the hospital, I wanted to help him put his life back together, but as I talked to him and got his bad attitude, I really think he is getting what he deserves. I am so glad that I left him...it is unfortuate that I still have to deal with him because of the relationship that my daughter has with him. He is a very unpleasant person.



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From: summer
January 24, 2013, 8:28 am

Well done Heather ((( hug )))..well done for leaving him and well done for thinking of you. You have done what you are reasonable able - he is no longer your responsibility.. you are a good person look after yourself  x..



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January 23, 2013, 8:23 pm

Wow, Sounds like you have some REALLY healthy boundaries made.  Well done!

Stay strong, and again, really well done!

 



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From: camino
January 23, 2013, 8:20 pm

ugh.  how awful!  my ex is bothersome too and i still have to deal w/him because of the kids - never can make a clean getaway can we??!  mainly i get blamed for the divorce itself- though he remarried 7mths after it was finalized.  crazy.

i hope your ex gets a contact # and address soon for your peace of mind.  does he have a therapist or social worker assigned to him? i wonder if you couldn't give the creditors and such their numbers...mean huh?!

take care dear and thanks again for listening to me these last weeks, cami



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From: Andie372
January 23, 2013, 6:22 pm
Right remember there was a reason you divorced him. You're a sweet person so your first instinct is to help. butdon't let yourself get tarnished by his bitterness. You may want to consider changing your phone number.

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