Jul 06, 2008, 03:15 pm

Thank you for your invitation to be your friend. I always come and see who I'm going to be talking with. I've read a lot of the advice that is good and a little predictable. Sorry Guys, but you know it's true. I would like to add one thing to what everyone has said. You have a child! Do you really want to give her the impression that that is what her relationships should be like, or turn her off from having one at all when she grows up?

My cousin wrote me a few weeks ago about how depressed she was, and that all she could manage at the time is to keep her 3 boys going and happy, fed, etc. Then she stated that she guessed her husband had a "right to complain!" I wrote her back and said, "No, he doesn't but he does have a vow: Better or Worse, in Sickness and in Health!..."

Maybe it's a time for a respite from the relationships and a focus of your Mom and your Daughter could give you time to think it over a bit.

Just a thought.....

Anomaly 

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Jul 06, 2008, 07:48 am

I have a friend that goes through the same thing. She tells me that she deserves what she gets and if only she could have, would have, should have, etc... maybe he wouldn't get so mad at her and things would be different. She's been hospitalized and left for dead before, but still goes back to him. When it comes down to it, people that do those things generally don't change and history tends to repeat itself. It's especially hard when it's someone we love. But maybe by reading this, you might see the insanity with that way of thinking. Is that really what you want for the rest of your life? 

Jul 05, 2008, 11:17 pm

Men who beat women have a very bad track record for changing. They don't change. It doesn't matter what they say. Rejoice! You are free. I wish you well.

Jul 05, 2008, 11:04 pm

I know you still love him and everything. I'm going through still loving and ex myself. It sucks. You just need to talk to different guys and find another one you start to love enough to give a chance to go out with you. Sorry if that sounds harsh, I just dont want people to end up like me.