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Please help me. No one understands.

By: hay_voovay
Mood: Frustrated
Date: Oct 06, 2008
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Why must people chew their food like uncivilized animals & then tell you to go take your crazy pills when you ask them to stop?

My brother came over ONCE AGAIN yesterday to go on those gay sites. He ordered pizza. Damn! He makes me SO mad. I wanted to choke & strangle him. I almost cried. He sucks AND smacks LOUD on his food. My ears are very sensitive. I have hyperacusis. I told him that, & he thinks he can just treat me any old kinda way. & he has NO respect for my house. I'm tired of him coming from WAY across town, just to torture me & make me suffer. Let me tell you a story.

This past Christmas eve, he brought my other brother & his girlfriend over. I fixed them hot cocoa & pork & beans & rice. He was smacking SO loud! I asked him to stop it & asked him why he needs to smack & suck so loud. He gave me this, "Heifer, I KNOW u ain't talkin' 2 me!" kinda look. But then, he bosses everyone around & tries to tell them what they should & shouldn't do & how to live their lives. & he treats people like they're too stupid to know left from right.

So my other brother & his girlfriend were sitting there in the corner laughing. & he started laughing, too, & he lied & said it was a funny dream he had the night before. He's very notorious for lying about everything. Damn shame! He's 34 yrs. old & still does immature things.

I was SO pissed I didn't speak to them for like 3 mos. I was thinking about making them eat outside from then on, but then again, I felt like it would be wrong if I did that. But then again, they violated me in my own house.

He smacks & sucks so loud that it triggers off an anxiety attack & makes me have to go to the hospital. & 1 time, he MADE me sit in the front seat of his car, where my schizophrenic mom pissed @, JUST so he can torture me & smack LOUD, IN MY EAR! (Yes, schizo mom pisses all over the place) I bet if I tell him that he's no longer allowed to eat in my house, he'll never violate me again! My counselor & I are working on assertiveness skills. It's very difficult for me to stand up for myself & say NO.



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Oct 06, 2008, 06:10 pm

Maybe if u tell him he is not welcome unless he can use his manners,I know it  reminds me of when I 1st got married.I never realized how my family would slurp their food or chomp with mouth open until my husbadn came along,he broke me og the habit and now it urks me to here someone else do it.He always said if ur going eat like a pig ,go to the barn,lol!!

Good Luck!!



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Oct 06, 2008, 04:01 pm

Hey hun, I completely understand where you are coming from.  It's not right for anyone to come into your house and disrespect you.  It's very difficult for me to stand up for myself as well.  It's hard to tell people No because I fear the confrontation or negative impact it may have on them.  I'm in counseling as well and my therapist has been working with me on creating healthy boundaries.  It's ok to have rules in your house.  If someone doesn't respect them, they they shouldn't be welcomed back until they do.  I know it's easier said than done.  I'm so glad you are reaching out for help on this site.  I'm here if you need to talk. 

Shelley



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